How are you treating your partner?

1. Do you ever get upset when your partner spends time with their family or friends without you?

» Yes » No

YES: In a healthy relationship, it is important for both partners to respect each other’s space and their relationships with others. Discouraging or preventing a partner from seeing family or friends is controlling and unfair. Trying to control your partner is a warning sign for abusive behavior.

NO: That’s good! It sounds like you respect your partner’s space and their need to spend time with other people who are also important to them.

2. Have you ever checked your partner’s phone or text messages without them knowing?

» Yes » No

YES: Checking someone’s messages without their permission violates their privacy and their trust in you. If you are checking up on them because you suspect they are cheating it is best to be direct and talk about it.

NO: Super! It sounds like you trust your partner, and trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship.

3. During past disagreements with your partner, have you been able to discuss problems calmly and resolve them together?

» Yes » No

YES: Great! Practicing open and respectful communication along with willingness to compromise will benefit all your relationships.

NO: Healthy communication involves listening to each other during disagreements and communicating in a calm manner. Walking away from discussions or choosing not to resolve problems will deteriorate your relationship. Yelling and cussing are always inappropriate and are abusive methods of communication.

4. Have you ever tried to convince your partner to be more sexual with you?

» Yes » No

YES: A healthy sexual relationship means that both partners agree to and feel comfortable with sexual activity. Trying to pressure, convince, or beg a partner to have sex is unhealthy and shows disrespect for your partner’s boundaries and feelings. Using force or threats to have sex is sexual assault or rape.

NO: Good job. Respecting your partner’s sexual boundaries ensures that the relationship is safe and comfortable for both of you.

5. In your opinion, is it ever ok to keep certain things private from your partner?

» Yes » No

YES: We agree! No one should feel like they have to tell-all to their partner. But, it’s also important to be honest about things that affect your partner and/or the relationship. These are things they need to know.

NO: Although honesty is an important part of a healthy relationship, we are not entitled to know everything about the people we date. Everyone has the right to keep certain things private. It is, however, always best to be honest about things that affect the relationship. These are things that need to be shared.