I wasn’t the kind of woman who dreamed of the day I would have a child. In fact, I truly thought I would be childless—until the day I met the father of my daughter. Even then, I wasn’t sure what kind of mother I would be. But I did know one thing: I would always be a working mother.
My own mother worked off and on as I was growing up. She finished college and never worked on her skills. When she and my father separated, she had nothing to fall back on. She ended up living off and continues to do so to this day. She has a simple life, not because she wants to but because of choices she made before I was even born. She bought into the myth of the husband as breadwinner, supporter and protector, even though she was a child of the sixties and saw the birth of feminism. It just didn’t stick with her.
Work provides me with more than just money. It gives me freedom and meaning. It’s a way of contributing to society and a way to leave some mark, even if it lasts only for a moment. For my work to do all this, I’ve found, I need to have a few different jobs: I work a day job and, once I’m off, I write with my blog.
In conjunction with the job of being the mama, sometimes it feels like all of this is too much. I remember all those moments and I find I have the strength to keep going after all. I want my daughter to know that, as hard as work may be, as hard as leaving her every morning is, it is worth the sacrifice. It’s a sacrifice made on the altar of future freedom, in case it’s ever needed. It’s a sacrifice made to teach my daughter that she should never doubt her own worth; that she will never need anyone or anything more than herself.
Do I wish I could stay at home sometimes with my little girl? Am I jealous of the yaya who get to spend all that time with her during the day? Absolutely. But I still wouldn’t have it any other way, and I hope that my example gets down into her bones.
Of all the tips for working moms, top of the list has to be taking care of yourself. Mom’s needs often seem to come last. After your kids, their dad, your job, the pets, and endless errands, that is.
There’s just not enough time in the day to get everything done, so your running shoes or novel or bath salts or strappy sandals just gather dust.
But you can’t always stay on the back burner. Here are four reasons it’s important for working moms to take care of ourselves:
Working Moms Tip 1: If Mama Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy
When mom’s stressed or burnt out, everyone in the house suffers. Even a baby gets fussy when his mother is upset. Older children may respond to a tense mom by acting out.
If you take an hour or two to yourself, for whatever nourishes you, the rest of the day (or week) will be easier and more fun. Your family will enjoy having an energetic and refreshed mom, even if they complain about your absence. Bottom line: by paying attention to your own needs, you’ll actually be better at meeting everyone else’s.
Working Moms Tip 2: Stress and Sleep Deprivation Make You Fat
Stress and sleep deprivation into your bloodstream, which triggers fat storage around your waist. No wonder it’s so hard to lose that pregnancy weight while getting up every three hours with a new baby!
Working Moms Tip 3: Other People Are Capable, Too
So many working moms fall into the Superwoman trap, thinking we have to be in charge of everything because we’re the only one who will do it right. That mentality not only overloads you with work, it doesn’t give enough credit to your other family members. Even worse, it prevents them from learning skills that can lighten your load and make them feel more capable.
At work, see if there’s a junior employee looking to advance to whom you can delegate some tasks. Again, they won’t be completed the way you would, but you’ll have more free time for yourself. You’ll also be mentoring someone who could use the experience.
Working Moms Tip 4: Life Is for Living
This is your life, right now. Would you rather spend it rushing around to finish your to-do list, or actually enjoying yourself? Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’ll relax once you reach the bottom of the list – there will always be something more to do. Instead, ruthlessly prioritize and eliminate tasks that don’t absolutely have to get done.
If you’ve having trouble carving out time for yourself, start small. Say you always wanted to meditate: wake up five minutes early for some deep breathing and visualization. Or if you miss exercising regularly, schedule a once-a-week power walk during lunch. If it’s on your calendar, you can plan work around it.
I look so good without you
Got me a new hairdo
Lookin’ fresh and brand new
Since you said that we’re through
I’m done with your lies
Baby now my tears dried
You can see my brown eyes
Ever since you said goodbye
I look so good, I look so good without you
I look so good, I look so good without you
I try to be as time-efficient as I can throughout the day, so I’ll have more time to just enjoy my daughter when I’m at home. Also, I plan ahead so that getting out the door in the morning is as conflict-free as possible. If I’m stressing over the same thing too much, I think about how I can suck the stress out of the situation, and I take action.
Being able to work from home has been a lifesaver for me. I’m a full-time employee and fortunately my boss is quite flexible and understanding when I need to modify my schedule to be home with the daughter. My laptop keeps me connected. It took time, a great attitude, and delivering quality work to get to this point.
That’s LIFE!
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Everything you always wanted to know about baby care, share your tips, tricks, new and old trends, experiences and advices.
AVOID FOODS FOR BABY THAT CAUSES CHOKING!
It’s exciting when your baby first starts eating solid food.
But be careful. Foods that are hard, round or difficult-to-chew can lodge in small airways, causing choking, according to experts.
For children younger than 3, i recommend avoiding foods such as raw carrots and other crunchy vegetables, hard candy, lollipops, peanuts and popcorn.
You should also cut grapes into quarters, hot dogs into fine sticks rather than round slices, chop apples and firm fruits into very small pieces, and cook carrots and hard vegetables until soft, then cut into small pieces.
Another recommendation is keeping an eye on small children while they’re eating. Small children may eat in a hurry, stuff too much food in their mouths, or chew their food inadequately.
hope i helped.
I tag myself now as a proud MOM to my 7 months old daughter. I worked for 8 or almost 10 hours a day, I’ll do this for the coming future of my daughter.
I almost got fired when I didn’t report to work for days because my daughter was sick. I had to juggle my time between my being a mom and most precious persons in my life plus the responsibilities I had at work. It was tough. Besides, it’s a very practical and wise decision. What’s the use of having an extra pay when that amount would also go to babysitting expenses. I’d rather spend those working hours with my daughter.
I’m happy now, very much. I have some personal money anyway from blogging so it’s okay. I survive. Thank you LORD that you always with me no matter what trials and problems that I encountered in my life. You always gave me strength, protection and wisdom. Thank you LORD for loving me and my daughter NEHYA. I love you very very very much LORD.
Life is a constant change. Love is the greatest surprise. Friendship is your best defense. Maturity comes with responsibilities. And death is just around the corner. So expect little, assume nothing, learn from your mistakes, listen to your heart, take care of your friends, treasure your family, achieve your goals, cry because of laughter, laugh because of pain, eat your pride and throw upp all hatred. And always remember that LIFE is the best gift and not everyone gets the chance to enjoy it.
I hope we make love parin in bed eventhough may iba ka na but its ok for me, the important is ma hug kita and make romance with you. Tanggap ko na pangalawa lang kami ng anak mo, i understand bcoz your relationship with her is bago pa and hot pa kayo pareho!! If GOD’s will na kayo talaga wala na kaming magawa ng anak mo.
Please help me to look a psychiatrist coz by the end of the year, i will file a petition to annul my marriage. I and my x hubby talked 3 days ago and he told me that kahit anong ground ang ilagay ko kahit baliw pa sya its ok with him, the important is ma annul yong kasal. He told me that 6 months from now he will marry again in a muslim tribe.
HELP ME GOD THAT ALL MY PLANS WILL BE GRANTED!!! I love you nehya and papa!!!!!!
Of all the tips for working moms, top of the list has to be taking care of yourself. Mom’s needs often seem to come last. After your kids, their dad, your job, the pets, and endless errands, that is.
There’s just not enough time in the day to get everything done, so your running shoes or novel or bath salts or strappy sandals just gather dust.
But you can’t always stay on the back burner. Here are four reasons it’s important for working moms to take care of ourselves:
Working Moms Tip 1: If Mama Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy
When mom’s stressed or burnt out, everyone in the house suffers. Even a baby gets fussy when his mother is upset. Older children may respond to a tense mom by acting out.
If you take an hour or two to yourself, for whatever nourishes you, the rest of the day (or week) will be easier and more fun. Your family will enjoy having an energetic and refreshed mom, even if they complain about your absence. Bottom line: by paying attention to your own needs, you’ll actually be better at meeting everyone else’s.
Working Moms Tip 2: Stress and Sleep Deprivation Make You Fat
Stress and sleep deprivation release cortisol into your bloodstream, which triggers fat storage around your waist. No wonder it’s so hard to lose that pregnancy weight while getting up every three hours with a new baby!
Not only is it demoralizing to carry more weight than your ideal, it increases your risk of developing heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and arthritis, among other conditions. And we all want to live long enough to play with our grandkids, maybe even see them get married, right?
So the next time you’re tempted to stay up until midnight sorting, folding, and putting away everyone’s laundry, go to sleep instead. You can just dress the kids out of baskets of clean laundry. Similarly, taking your work lunch break to exercise can actually give you a burst of energy and make the afternoon more productive.
Working Moms Tip 3: Other People Are Capable, Too
So many working moms fall into the Superwoman trap, thinking we have to be in charge of everything because we’re the only one who will do it right. That mentality not only overloads you with work, it doesn’t give enough credit to your other family members. Even worse, it prevents them from learning skills that can lighten your load and make them feel more capable.
Try leaving the kids with their dad or grandfather for a Saturday morning while you have brunch with your girlfriends. He may not change the diapers as often as you would, or feed them perfectly balanced meals, but I bet they’ll have fun. And not only will he feel rightly proud of his caregiving ability, your children will develop independence, seeing that they’re all right without mom hovering nearby all weekend.
At work, see if there’s a junior employee looking to advance to whom you can delegate some tasks. Again, they won’t be completed the way you would, but you’ll have more free time for yourself. You’ll also be mentoring someone who could use the experience.
Working Moms Tip 4: Life Is for Living
This is your life, right now. Would you rather spend it rushing around to finish your to-do list, or actually enjoying yourself? Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’ll relax once you reach the bottom of the list – there will always be something more to do. Instead, ruthlessly prioritize and eliminate tasks that don’t absolutely have to get done.
If you’ve having trouble carving out time for yourself, start small. Say you always wanted to meditate: wake up five minutes early for some deep breathing and visualization. Or if you miss exercising regularly, schedule a once-a-week power walk during lunch. If it’s on your calendar, you can plan work around it.
And the next time you have some breathing space, don’t fill it with errands. Instead, just breathe.
