red roses

LOVE takes time. It needs a history of giving ang receiving, laughing and crying…
LOVE never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfillment.
LOVE means believing in someone, in something. It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer, and to rejoice.
Satisfaction and ultimate fulfillment are by-products of dedicated love. They belong only to those who can reach beyond themselves; to whom giving is more important than receiving.
LOVE is doing everything you can to help others build whatever dreams they have.
LOVE involves much careful and active listening. It is doing whatever needs to be done, and saying whatever will promote the other’s happiness, security, and well-being. Sometimes, love hurts.
LOVE is on a constant journey to what others need. It must be attentive, caring, and open, both to what others say and to what others cannot say.
LOVE says no with empathy and great compassion.
LOVE is firm, but when neede it must be tender.
When others have tried and failed, love is the hand in yours in your moments of discouragement and disappointment.
LOVE is reliable.
LOVE is a choice and commitment to other’s true and lasting happiness. It is dedicated to growth and fulfillment. bLove is not selfish.
LOVE sometimes fails for lack of wisdom or abundance of weakness, but it forgives, knowing the intentions are good.
LOVE does not attach conditions… Genuine love is always a free gift.
LOVE realizes and accepts that there will be disagreements and disturbing emotions… There may be times when miles lie between, but love is a commitment. It believes, and endures all things.
LOVE encourages freedom of self. Love shares positive and negative reactions to warm and cold feelings.
LOVE, intimate love, will never reject others. It is the first to encourage and the last to condemn.
LOVE is a commitment to growth, happiness, and fulfillment of one another.

-Barb Upham

ONE DAY, ONE FRIEND ASKED ANOTHER,
“How is it that you are always so happy? you have so much of energy, and you never seem to get down.
WITH HER EYES SMILING, SHE SAID,
“I know the secret!”
“What secret?
To which she replied,
“I’ll tell you all about it, but you have to promise to share the secret with other.”
“THE SECRET IS THIS:
I have learned there is little I can do in my life that will make me truly happy.
I must depent on God to make me happy and to meet my needs.
When a need arises in my life, I have to trust God to supply according to HIS riches.
I have learned most of the time I don’t need half of what I think I do.
He has never let me down. Since I learned that ‘Secret’,” I am happy”.
THE QUESTIONER’S FIRST THOUGHT WAS,
“That’s too simple!”
But upon reflecting over her own life she recalled how she thought a bigger house would make her happy, but I didn’t!
She thought a better paying job would make her happy, but it hadn’t.
When did she realize her greatest happiness? Sitting on the floor with her grandchildren playing games, eating pizza,or reading a story, a simple gift of God.
NOW YOU KNOW IT TOO!
We can’t depent on people to make us happy.
Only GOD in his infinite wisdom can do that.Trust HIM! And now I pass the Secret on to you! So once you get it, what will you do?
YOU HAVE TO TELL SOMEONE THE SECRET, TOO!
That God is his wisdom will take care of YOU!
But it’s not really a secret…
We just have to believe it and do it…
Really trust God!…

MAINIT NA PAGMAMAHALAN…. Nakalulungkot sabihin, ngunit halos isa lamang sa bawat sampumg misis ang may tunay na kasiyahan sa seks. Bakit?
Malaking bahagi ng pagkakamali ay nasa panig ng mister. Siya ay masyadong mapilit, nagmamadali, walang pakundangan, masyadong makasarili,masyadong magaspang.

ANG SEKS SA BUHAY MAY-ASAWA…
Hindi maaaring ihiwalay ang seks sa buhay mag-asawa. Hindi ito nakahiwalay na kumpartamento. Ang mabuti o masamang epekto nito ay tumatagos sa ating buong buhay. Kung tayo’y nasisisyahan sa ating buhay-sekswal, napalalalim natin ang ating kakayanan para sa bawat anyo ng pagmamahalan. Ito’y nagdudulot ng panloob na katatagan, at mas maayos na ugnayan sa ating pamilya, kaibigan, at mga kasama sa trabaho.

WALANG KAALAMAN AT MALING PANANAW…
Ang pinakamabigat na kaaway ng pagkakasundong sekswal ay ang kawalan ng kaalaman at maling pananaw. Di pagkaalam na ang seks ay isang bahagi lamang ng kabuuan. Sa katotohanan, ang seks ay espirituwal at emosyonal na karanasan. Ang mga maling pananaw ay mga kaaway dahil napakarami karamihan mga mister ang nagiisip na ang karanasang sekswal ay kanilang karapatan at pribilehiyo at wari’y walang halaga ang damdamin ng mga kabiyak.
Ang totoo, ang huwarang buhay sekswal ay hindi basta-basta nangyayari. Unang-una, ito’y produkto ng isang tunay na pag-ibig na di-makasarili, pagkatapos ay ng matalinong pamamaraan at maingat na pagpaplano. Malalaman ng isang matalinong mister na sa kanyang misis ang seks ay hindi lamang pisikal na karanasan, kundi bahagi ng pagpapahiwatig ng pagmamahal, pagmamalasakit, paglalambing at pagiging maalalahanin.

MGA KAKULANGAN NG MGA MISTER
Napakaraming mga mister ang kaagad nagpapawalng-halaga sa seks. Nagiging pabaya at padalus-dalos, at itinuturing ang seks bilang gawi at pangangailangan ng katawan. Hindi nila nauunawaan na ang seks ay maaaring patuloy na maging kagalakan at kasiyahan sa kanilang mag-asawa.
Karaniwan ang mga mister ay nag-mumungkahi at humihingi ng pakikipagtalik nang mabilisan at sa paraang brutal. Walng anumang paghahanda, paglalambing, walang pagmamahal. At pagkatapos, ay walang malambing na pagtatapos, walang pagpapakita ng malalim na kasiyahan, walang pagpapasalamat sa pagbibigay ng asawa. Ang totoo, ang pinaka-nakasisiyang kaligayahang sekswal ay pinaplano. Ang oras ay dapat pagkasunduan nang maaga. Sa ganitong paraan ay maiiwasan ang di pagkakaunawaan at pagsama ng loob. Magkaroon din dagdag na kasiyahan sa pananabik. Maaaring kasabikan ng isa’t isa ang oras na iyon. Hindi maliit na bahagi ng kasiyahan. Kasama rito marahil ay ang pagpaplano ng kaayusan ng paligid, ng tamang pananamit at kalinisan.
Ngayon ay naisip kong ang mag misis ay mayroong bahagi sa lahat ng ito, at mayroon din silang pagkakamali at pagkukulang. Ngayon ay pagusapan muna natin ang pagkukulang ni mister.

PAGIGING MALINIS SA PANGANGATAWAN
Napakahalaga para sa mister na maging malinis. Ang paliligo, pagaahit at pagpapabango ay lalong makatutulong kay misis upang tumugon nagng may pananabik. Madali mong makikita ang problema ng misis kung si mister ay hindi malinis.
Sa iba, ang isang napagkasunduang oras ay nakatutulong. Nagagawang mabuti ang paghahanda at nagkakaroon ng pananabik sa paghihintay. Kabaligtaran nito ang mga mister na humihiling ng kasiyahan sa anumang oras at lugar na kanyang maisipan. Hindi madaling makita na ang ganyang ugali ay maaaring pumigil sa tunay na kaligayahan.
Ang halimbawa ng karamihang pulot-gata ay nakapagbibigay-liwanag. Napakadalang na pulot-gata ang nagkakaroon ng kasiyahan sa sekswal na paraan.
Simple ang dahilan nito…ang pagkakasundo ng dalawa ay nangangailangan ng panahon. Ang tagumpay ay marahan kung dumating. Kung minsan ay umaabot ng taon. Dapat ay mayroong pagtitiyaga at mapagmahal na pagmamalasakit. Simple ang aral dito, malaki ang magagawa ni mister upang matamo ang lubos na pagtugon kung sila ay magtatalik nang may pagtitiyaga at paglalambingan hanggang sa ang ninanasang abutin ay makamit. Tiyak ang resulta ay sulit.

Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it…
Don’t let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life…relationship work best when they are balanced.
When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams…
We cry who care for us,We cry for those who never care us…and we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life., Its strange but true.
Once you realize this its never too late to change.
Don’t make promise when you are in joy…
Don’t reply when you are sad…
Don’t take decision when you are angry …think twice.,Act wise…
When you keep saying you are busy,then you are never free.
When you keep saying you have no time,then you will nwver have time.
When you keep saying that you will do it tommorrow,….
Then your tommorrow will never come.

One day, god had work for me to do. He showed a rock and told me to push it with all my might.For many years, I pushed and pushed but nothing happend.The rock hasn’t moved even an inch. In discouregement,I asked god why am I failing. The lord responded “your task is to push the rock never did I mention that you move it. Now I, my child, will move the rock.”…Obedience to god is easy if we only know how to listen. He doesn”t want us to suffer, he only wants us to LEARN…

My mom only had one eye I hated her….she was such an embarrassment.She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me.I was so embarrassed,How could she do this to me?I ignored her,threw her a hateful look and ran out.                    

The next day at school one of my classmates said,”EEE”,your mom only has one eye”Iwanted to bury myself,I also wanted my mom to just disappear so I confronted her that day and I said”If youre only gonna make me a laughing stock,why don’t you just die?”My mom did not respond…I didnt even stop to think for a second about what i had said,because I was full of anger.I was oblivious to her feelings I wanted out of that house,and I have nothing to do with her.So I studied real hard,got a chance to go to singapore to study.Then I got married.I bought a house of my own I had kids of my own.I was happy with my life,my kids and the comforts.Then one day,my mother came to visit me.She hand’nt seen me in years and she did’nt even meet her grandchildren.When she stood by the door my children laughed at her,and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited.I screamed at her,”how dare you come to my house and scare my children get out of here now…”and to this my mother quietly answered,”oh Im sorry I may have gotten the wrong address”,and she disappeared out pf sight.

One day,a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house in singapore.So I lied my wife that I was going on a bussiness trip.After the reunion I went to old shack just out of curiosity,my neighbor said that she died.I din not shed a single tear they handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

“My dearest son,I think of you all the time,Im sorry that I came to singapore and scared your children,I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion but I may not be able to even get out of my bed to see you.Im sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up,you see…when you were very little,you got into an accident,and lost your eye as a mother,I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye…So I gave you mine,I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me in my place,with that eye with my love to you….

                                                Your mother,

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